Hi. I’m Emil, I’m 22, and I first came across a website about porn addiction probably more than a year ago. Back then I still didn’t have the motivation to break with porn and masturbation, so my fapping carried on, with short breaks (the longest was two months), from roughly the age of fourteen.
Now I have a wonderful girlfriend, and we’ve started getting closer in bed. And this is where the problem appears. My little guy can stay erect the whole time, and I can satisfy my girlfriend in all sorts of ways, but I can’t ejaculate. We try different things, but not even oral sex or her masturbating me helps. Because of this my girlfriend feels down, because she thinks she doesn’t turn me on enough for me to come. I told her it’s because before I met her I did too much by my own hand, and that she has to give me some time.
At the moment I’m a week without porn and masturbation. I keep wondering whether fooling around together undoes my abstinence, and whether we should stop being sexual altogether for a while. And whether the problem might be in my head, because the equipment works, and I remember that before porn I used to come quite quickly. To be honest, I now feel I’ve trained the death grip too much, and now there’s no normal feeling the way there should be.
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